Often we do not know how to handle anger, particularly when it is expressed by another.
We therefore offer solutions that bring no relief to the person. Honestly, we are uncomfortable with the other's rage.
Anger does not have to be logical or valid but tends to surface once a person is feeling able to survive a crisis. In crisis, one often feels amazed that she survived the loss.
Anger is a necessary stage of healing and as permission is given to express this emotion, one is able to process true hurts.
Anger has no limits. Underneath anger is pain. But anger can be strength and provides temporary structure in loss.
If we ask someone to move past their anger too fast, all we do is alienate them. We fail to recognize their loss and pain.
Anger can be seen as a life line. It is a rope to which one can cling and climb until clarity is again found.