Depression and anxiety

What Do I Need?

In times of want and need we tend to focus on that particular desire. It becomes our primary focus and occupies our thoughts.

For myself, I found myself reestablishing myself as a single woman, selling and moving homes and finding a new career.

Do I leave my home church or stay? Do I move back to Australia or to a location close to my children?

Such concerns are a normal part of life but the stress of these things can find us pushing God to the periphery.

At such times we can neglect to seek God for help and become obsessed with our dilemma.

What do we do?

I believe that we start with repentance. Do what we usually do when we've neglected some one that we love.

After repentance, let the conversation with God flow.

The more we focus on God, the more access to His unfailing love.

His never ending love is empowering and fuels us as does nothing else. 

Where is Happiness in the Tough Times?


I am a melancholy personality. I enjoy the thought of sleeping in or going for a walk with my dogs in the sunshine. I love the thought of curling up by the fire and reading a good book with a lit candle alongside me.

I can be intense as many know. I try to find the reason for the occurrence of things and love having a goal. When life changes drastically, it's difficult to find joy. My sense of justice is upset and emotions rage.

Joy though doesn't have to be put on hold until circumstances change. It can be found in the simplest of things.

It can be having coffee with an understanding friend who doesn't have to deflect the conversation to discuss "the bright side of things." It's taking up an old hobby that was not possible in former times. It's rearranging a room and giving it a fresh look and this does not have to cost money. It's sitting in a coffee shop and while you may be alone, you can be surrounded by the chatter of others. Perhaps joy is watching the sun go down, listening to the wildlife.

Life can be tough and many of us would confess that we are not fans of what we face. We still though need joy.

We need to remember that God is bigger and that life is not just about us.

There is beauty around us at all times and we can be thankful even when things are painful.



We celebrate many firsts and lasts in life. The word "celebrate" has a variety of meanings. Some times it's effortless while some times it's work.

We are coming to a time of year, Thanksgiving and Christmas, that can evoke difficult emotions. It's a time of year when many seek and need support.

Those whom are happy should not merely shelter in their happiness but look out for those who hurt. We will always be surrounded by others whom are less fortunate.

I write this for those that find the coming days of celebration tough.

While loneliness is difficult, self-pity is a bottomless pit. Therefore allow yourself to hurt and cry but then determine to stop.

My priority every morning, is to read my Bible and a devotional. These things are like a good glass of wine. They are not just informative but empowering. Write down, underline, recite a verse that penetrates your despair and determine that God designed you to overcome the obstacles of your life.

Shower and get dressed. One's bed is so inviting - to just keep your head under the covers and hope that this life would disappear. Showering and dressing seem to wash away negative emotions. Determine that this day will be better than anticipated.

Lastly, a list gives direction for difficult days. While this list might contain "must dos" that seem impossible, place easier tasks on it too. These easy things will provide a sense of accomplishment.

Make sure that you go out of your home at least once so that you are in the company of other people.

Include those to whom you owe thanks. It costs little or nothing to send a text, email or card of appreciation.

Determine to do life well. These difficult celebratory days will pass and once again you can be one whom enjoys such, rather than being one whom dreads these times. This in itself is empowering. As much as the good times are nice, faith and strength are learnt and exercised in the tough times.

The Choice

Mostly, faith is learnt through hard work. The greatest lessons in life are learnt through our pain. When life is good we don't really need faith but when life is difficult, it's a different story.

Difficulties cause us to question life and it's meaning and this is when we grow.

Life can involve looking back and regretting certain decisions or wishing for a different outcome. There's much, though, no matter what, that can be learnt in the process.

There are choices in the process. We can still be fruitful even in difficult situations. (James 1:12)