authority and marriage

Who's in the Driver's Seat?

So often we hear that it is communication that determines the future of a marriage. I don't think that this is true. Other skills are needed.

For a marriage to survive, the sharing of power is important. 

Some find this hard for various reasons whether it is a lack of trust or a threat to one's ego.

As married couples, as in any relationship, we should take other's opinions and feelings into account. We should allow their thoughts to influence ours, particularly in a marriage. When we neglect to validate others, their sense of value is minimized.

These thoughts do not mean that one gives up the driver's seat but rather that each person is validated in the relationship. We also learn and achieve more as we are willing to share the power and our lives.