We've heard the statement, "Even when our world is falling apart, God is still working in all areas."
Easily said but not easily lived. And very hard to hear when life is in turmoil.
The hand and will of God though is often not pleasant. It is not the stuff of our dreams.
It may even mean that we have to stagger through a storm alone, accused and ashamed.
God's will is rarely a life of success and no adversity. Consider Isaiah 53:10 in regards to Jesus.
We also cannot deny the pain of Joseph's life. At 17, he was betrayed by his brothers, sold into slavery and separated from family for twenty years. And yet would we say that he was out of God's will? And that God had removed Himself from Joseph's life?
God will accomplish His purpose and His will despite the messiness of life.
It actually takes trials and pain to make us useful to God. In fact it's doubtful that anyone is truly useful to God without very deep pain.