One of the toughest comments is that of "move on." It's often spoken in a way that means "get over it" or 'forget it" and the speaker comes across as the champion of conquering all.
I've heard it preached from the pulpit and I've heard it spoken privately in leadership situations when a member must leave as they've become an embarrassment to a church.
I've nodded my head in agreement and cheered on a speaker when this term has been used but my conscience cringes.
Some times the message has been great as the words are wrapped in love and mercy. But at other moments, I've wondered. "Move on" honestly can be spoken when the deliverer of these words feels inadequate and afraid. Or perhaps some one's dilemma is demanding too much time. Avoidance is the answer, spoken as 'move on."
There are those people who do move on fast but then there are those, the deep thinkers, who analyse and sift through situations at a different pace, determined to examine things, from every angle. And yes this is annoying to many, but we do not all fit one mold.
Spending the time to work through situations does not necessarily mean that one is being a victim.
God is patient and yes, tolerant. He guided the Israelites through a desert for forty years when it should have taken eleven days.
Yes they moved on and wow was it frustratingly slow, but that's the process of God.